True Colors
Friday, March 30, 2007
I'm Glad It's Friday. Not for the normal reason of OMG lets go get drunk and play hide the penis! But because No One Reads Blogs on the weekend. Well I do. But most people actually have lives.
I could write about how I am still pissed off that the two youngest boys Exercised Stuperman's bed to death, and how I don't really want to spend the money on a new bed right now. But since no one is reading anyway, it's the perfect opportunity for me to show my true bitchy colors ;o)
First a quick Cast of Characters :
Dorothy- Sister In Law.
Matt- Dorothy's 11 or 12 year old son.
Papa- Jake, My Father In Law.
Nana- Irene, the mother in law.
Thursday. After School, Rainbow man runs inside just long enough to throw his back pack in my general direction. He is off to his Nana's house to play with his cousins.
The Husband and I, As well as Stuperman, go over around five thirty for dinner and gabfest. I noticed right away that Rainbow Man was sporting a brand new black eye. I was told the boys had been roughhousing.
Since they do this so often, I thought nothing of it.
Friday. I called Nana over to help me decide if Blue Boy needed stitches or a band aid, and she proceeds to tell me the real story behind Rainbow Mans' eye.
It seems Matt, who is four years older then RM, thought it would be OK to hold Rainbow Mans hands up above his head and kick him in the face.
Nope. You did read that right.
He kicked him in the fucking face. Four years older, a good fifty pounds heavier and prolly two feet taller. He immobilised and kicked my son. In.The.Face.
So now I am mad. Why wasn't I told this last night? Why wasn't I given the opportunity to say something to Matt and Dorothy about it? Don't dare tell me that it had already been dealt with. He is MY son. I will "deal" with it.
Nana goes on to tell me that things are very awkward at the House right now because just this morning (the older two had slept over) Matt had closed his hands around my sons' throat, picked him up by the Neck. The Goddamn Neck! Picked him up, off the ground, and THREW him down.
Have you any idea how small a child's neck is? how fragile? How easy it is to bruise their brains? Snap their vertebrae? Any idea how this makes me feel?
I am glad that Papa yelled at Matt. I'm Glad it made Matt cry. He could have killed my son. I don't care if he is family or not.
Matt is four years older. Four fucking years. Matt KNEW better. Don't fucking tell me boys will be fucking boys Dorothy. That's not normal behavior. And heaven help me, Had I been in that room when your son picked up mine, I swear to God, He would have regretted it. Family or not. That's MY Son he hurt. MINE.
And I will protect him in any manner I choose to.
Labels: I'm Important Too, Rainbow Man
posted by Bluepaintred @ 10:41:00 PM
21 Comments:
Reading it again after you told me about it makes me angry all over again. That is so cruel. I think he needs to accidentally walk into a spanking, or a swat to the back of the head.
RoxDar
I think you're right to be pissed! And I don't think I'd let RM around his cousin for a good long while...family or not.
i agree that it's never right to bully someone younger. however having 3 boys, 2 of whom have been at that horrid age of 10-14, i can say it does happen. I have always punished my boys for it, but it happens ALOT. In fact my middle son, who endured his older brothers tortures, now does it to the youngest. You would think, knowing how much it sucked he would be nicer...but no.
and i read on the weekend too...losers unite!
We had a case a few years ago down here of a kid that age killing a younger one.
This worries me. Of course I've never had boys that age, and my brother is gay so he never tried to beat me up (plus I could kick his ass), so I don't know for sure.
I wonder if Matt shouldn't talk to someone...
OMG - I'd be BEYOND pissed.
What really pisses me off is that they hid this from you. I think I'd be making a phone call to his parents. There should be some sort of long-term punishment for that!
BTW - I love your new template, it's GORGEOUS!!!!!
OHMYGOD!! My mom had a sister just like your sister in law with a kid just like Matt except it was a girl....a six foot tall, THICK, girl. She used to terrorize my brother and I, who were much younger. (One time she threw us off a dock.) I know family dynamics can be really tough, but I hope you do have it out with them...and then tell us about it. =)
You have every right to be livid! SOMETHING needs to be done, or Matt's just going to keep getting worse. Seriously. Good luck...
DAMN.
Sheila hah! this is a first for my blog too!
Sheila yup. Im still seeing red.
RoxDar His eye thismorning is even more black, So everytime i look at him, it pisses me off more.
Blogarita hah! no doubt. None of my boys will be around mat tunsupervised untill they can take him on, and win
Me I agree that this is soemhting that boys do all the time, thats why at first I thought nothing of it, but RM was doing nothing to matt, it wasnt that they were wrestling and he got hirt, matt walked up to him twice and hurt him, out of the blue.
Mr. Fabulous really? I feel Special
Finn I heard about that And it was one of the first things I thought of when i found out what went on. If it was RM doing this to a younger child i wouldnt be yelling at people for giving him shit, i would be looking into therepy for him!
Amy I agree I should have known the truth about the black eye, becuase if I had known, there is no way he would have stayed the night with matt there
Amy Isnt it wonderful!
Monkee they have gone back home now, a two+ hour trip. I will most likely see dorothy at blue bloys party. I hope matt is not in attendance!
Tug thast what me and the husband were saying. its obvious matt has some aggression issues that need to be worked on!
There is something extremely wrong with that picture...where is Matt's mother yelling and screaming until she turns blue in the face, why does Papa have to do all the dirty work?
I would've been so angry I wouldn't have known what to do.
SBW shook KittyGirl once when she was a bit smaller, I immediately stop it, punished him, and then took him over to the internet to show him pictures of what happens to babies when they are shaken. Let's just say he was so afraid of hurting his sister that he hasn't done it since, and I doubt he ever will.
Coffee Mom I agree, had it been my child doing the violence, i would have been yelling at themlouder then papa! Also, showing him the online consequences is an awesome idea!
You're not bitchy. You're a good Mom.
How is Rainbowman feeling about it? I mean other than in pain. Cause I remember being made to feel guilty for getting the older kid in trouble and that's not right.
Marilyn Rainbow Man is angry at Matt, he has no idea why it happened. He is glad his papa was mad, becuase its rare for Papa to get angy and shout at the kids. He is not feeling any guilt about matt gettin gin trouble. In fact he said today that he is happy it happened to him and not Blue Boy or Stuperman, which i think is cute.
Blue,
This is NOT boys rough-housing. This is assault! And, the fact that two incidents happened close in time is very alarming indeed. Matt needs to have a come-to-Jesus encounter with a police officer. Report this now while there are still bruises to prove. it. Then, if, unfortunately, Matt's treatment of others continues down this path, it will be on record. Filing charges will probably raise holy hell within the family, but mama bears must protect there cubs.
Peggy
-mom of 2 boys who got into their share of scuffles and knows the difference
Um, make that "their cubs" (I know better than that)
Peggy
Hey I read blogs on the weekend...
and....
How is it that this "child" is still alive? I'd be more than livid. Remind RM that this is not how people treat each other, and that just because Matt did this to him, he should never do it to someone else.
Then enroll that boy in some karate or something, so he can kick Matt's butt the next time they get to "hang out", and just look at dorothy and say - "what do you mean too rough? Boy will be boys...and laugh..."
Okay, I know you can't do that - and that it doesn't solve anything, but admit it, as you were reading it - you were thinking.. hey - not a bad idea.
Seriously, I think Matt may need to discover why he feels the need to beat up smaller children. Is someone abusing him? He needs to have a come to jesus meeting with a police officer - it can even be off the record to be reminded that you can not beat people up, that this is wrong.
Sorry for the book... Hugs to Rainbow Man
Oh, but I would have been ready to hurt someone myself, you have every right to feel the way you do..that is so wrong...
Matt needs help too...where is he learning this poor behavior and the lack of self control? Either it's medical or learned in his own home.
Go get that boy! I know I would. You have every right to be mad about the incident and that it was kept from you in the first place. Family or not, they handled it wrong all of the way around.
OMG-boys will be boys refers to taking things apart,and unsuccesfully putting them back together wrestling with siblings,tracking mud on your freshly washed floor and flushing inapropriate things down the john-it certainly doesn't extend to bullying -and with that size advantage-I'm seeing 6 shades of red with u honey-Glad Grandpa spoke up
Hugs to you and the boys
Grandma MM
OMG and I mad!!! I would phone my lovely sister and say something and I would do it right now since they are at church every Sunday and I would leave a very nice message.
"Yes, Dorothy, this is Bluepainted. I was wondering why you son assaulted my son twice on Friday and you didn't have the respect to tell me about it, that I had to find out the next day from Nana. You are lucky this time that I am not pressing charges because "we're family" however, FYI this WILL not happen again family or not. Your child has anger/agression problems and he is not allowed around my children unsupervised (by myself) until it can be displayed that his anger is under control and measures have been taken. My son would like an apology and so would I. I hope to hear from you soon. Bluepainted."
You need to do it otherwise you are condoling this actions on your child and I know you do not agree with it. They are so Godly and Saintly, well prove it!
Your nice sister-in-law Map
You can still say something. Why didn't RM say anything to you about the incident?
I wouldn't let him near that Matt kid anymore. If it was my nephew, Matt would know what it was like having someone bigger picking on him.
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