What would YOU do?
Tuesday, April 17, 2007
If:
- You are So mad at someone you want to ___ them.
- You cannot tell them why you are mad for fear you may say something you will regret.
- You KNOW you will say something you will regret.
- They are finally starting to realise I just might be mad at them.
- No fucking shit Sherlock!
- Soon they will ask you what the fuck is wrong.
- And you will still be too mad to say anything.
- However,
- Should you say "nothing",
- It then makes no sense to bring it up at a later date to be "talked" about!
Labels: I'm Important Too
posted by Bluepaintred @ 11:48:00 PM
22 Comments:
Wow. That kind of sounds like my situation right now with a certain house guest of mine that NEVER leaves.
you do relize that i am going to call you in the morning so i can hear all about this right so be waiting for my call
kiss
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You always tell them. You always talk it out. You never go to bed angry.
"make sweet sweet love"?
Spew it all out into a letter, then destroy the letter. Then go calmly talk to this person.
I'm with Snay. Life's too short. Speak softly, tell how you feel, and then hug and go into the bedroom (only works if it's that person you happen to be married to).
We all get pissed off. The secret is asking YOURSELF why you feel the way you do first.
It happens.
Sheila Hey, your life is a movie! I forget the title of it. but i know i wanted to see it. Maybe you need to watch it and it will show you the way. I will ask JJ when he gets home from work if he knows what it is called...
Kiss im up. call
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Avitable too late for that. However, at bed time, he still hadnt figured out I was mad. pissed off, but not mad.
Malnurtured Snay that works awsome for after the "talk" but not before, as I would get distracted, besides, my arm hurt to much last night and I was busy making sweet sweet love to my hot water bottle. Getting older sucks, I suggest not doing it.
Finn Instead of a letter, I am going to blast it all out to Kiss up there. She's like my diary, I can say anything and she just listens and tells me Im fucked up and then helps me decide what to say. i lurve her.
Tenacious B oh why i feel this way? its simple, he let me blabber on and on and on for almost six freaking months, he joined in the conversations and talked it over with me with my family, even that freaking evening. and then he said " we dont need one" thats it no other explination ( oh uhm. we are talking baout a puppy) if he had a real reason, fine, but he let me go on for half a year, making me think it was a done deal, all I had to do was find the perfect pup and out of the blue, he siad no? No disscussion nothing? Pfft.
also. I might have a touch of the PMS but that has nothing to do about it...
Wow, the best advise I could give you for avoiding a huge blow out fight (which by the way we all need once and a while) is to put it out on paper or in a graph or in your case since you are wanting a puppy find the cutest little puppy picture and then say "There is one very close do you want to go and look at it." Be sure to explain, you just want to look at it, there are no strings attached. The kids will fall in love with the cutest little puppy in the world and then he will have no choice but to agree with getting a puppy.
It may not work, but it's worth the try.
Hope you have a better day!!!
Oy.
Although I agree with Avi, I also think that sometimes, it is better to wait until you have cooled off sometimes.
Heat of the moment anger can go really, really bad.
Sometimes, when I'm absolutely pissed at my Husband, I find that a little distance helps to calm down and put things in a better perspective.
Aside from all that, fighting just sucks. I hate that tension in my house ... so I hope things go better for you chicklet.
I try really hard to talk about things when I am really angry and emotional. Of course it depends on the severity of the situation, but I think it is better to say nothing than say something out of anger. Whatever you say won't come off as effective.
I go to bed mad. Then if it is still on my mind, I talk to him in the morning.
Actually, sometimes I just yell at him. We have had our dog fights. Before we got a dog, anyway.
I use to just scream when I got mad without considering the fallout. Now that i'm on my 4th marriage in 24 years I now just say "i don't want to talk about it right now, leave me alone" then if in the morning i'm still pissed we'll discuss it. More times than not, I'm not mad anymore. But then i'm a moody biotch.
Coffee Mom the thing with the type of puppy i want, is its a purebread, therefore expensive, and you have to be approved and go on all sort of waiting lists and ect, so its not like i am saying to him lets go buy a puppy spur of the moment type of thing, but..gah!
plus i wouldnt take the kids unless it was a for sure thing, i wouldnt want to get their hopes up to dash them..
J. as soon as he sees it my way, or at least explains why he feels the way he does, things will be back to normal!
Diane as mad as I was (im better now) it would have been horrible had I opened my mouth
lynda i think we will talk it over tonight,a fter the kids go to bed..
squirrel im right up there on moodyness, so dont think youare the only one!
Make sure when you talk about it your not close minded to what he is saying. He may have valid points he may not, but actually listen to both sides of the conversation. My biggest problem is hearing what Big D says but not listening to what he is saying...does that make sense?!
RoxDar Thats just it, He didnt say WHY he said no, just "we dont need a dog" thats it, discussion (in his mind) over. thats not a disscussion in my opinion, sure if he has a valid reason, i will go along but to just say no, so autocratically? not OK.
I say get it out in the open instead of letting it fester. They may not even be aware of whats wrong...so discuss it like mature adults...then when they arent looking stick your tongue out at them! ;))
Passive agressive behavior should be listed as a cause of death. It'll kill you slow, but it'll still kill ya.
Seriously, quit giving yourself an ulcer and deal with the problem. If it involves telling someone how you actually feel, do it and get it done.
I'm always late to the party...dangit.
Tell him upfront that you want to know 'why', not just 'no'. Go from there.....sometimes you've just got to let it out. Just don't forget to BREATHE...deep breaths, conciously...it makes you think, and calms you. I know - I do it at work daily.
Sounds a lot like what it is like to live in my house at the moment. I'm nearing the point where I start to lace his food with cayenne pepper, from there I'm moving to exlax.
it's not worth fighting over a dog... we've fought over a dog, he wanted one, I didn't.
Convinced me to go look at one, just look, I fell in love with the darn thing, paid way to much money for it, and brought her home, now I'm spending $3400 to see if she will ever walk again.
Yeah, dogs aren't worth fighting over, but they are a lot of fun to have in the house. (don't you dare tell Mr. Incredible I said that!)
It's me, isn't it. What did I do? Yes you should tell me so we can fix it. I never want to make you mad. If I do make you mad, then I want to make you unmad. Okay?
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