Nobody Tells You ~ Amalah
Wednesday, June 07, 2006
Playing with blogexplosion, which I still do not understand I found this site. (<--please click)
Comments have been turned off it due to the overwhelming response this woman got.
This post touched me in a special way. I had no idea other moms felt like this too! As a mom you feel you have to hide it, from friends, from family from the Schools , Social Services even from Husbands... after al ~l stay at home moms are supposed to be so intuned with their kids
Today was an eyeopener! I feel freeer, somehow more competent as a mom.. maybe I am not the bad mom that deep down I have always felt I am ! Iits my responisibility to raise these boys to grow up and be men... what do I teach them when I lose my temper?
I could not comment on your blog Amalah, but if you see this, know that you have helped!
Thank You
posted by Bluepaintred @ 11:38:00 PM
7 Comments:
What an open and honest post that was and I think all of us moms have felt that away one time or another just not brave enough to admit it.
Thanks for sharing that with us Blue. ;)
No, sweets. Y'all helped ME. Immeasurably.
Thank you.
Im gonna check it out Paint
I've been there. Especially now that Mr.Katt isn't around too much I have days where I feel sooo frustrated because I am alone for weeks at a time with two little kids. That was very brave for her to admit that. I had a moment similar to hers with my four year old recently. I got so angry and frustrated I handed her to my mom and told her to take her because I was about to lose it. Instead of helping me my mom gave me this huge parenting lecture and made me feel like a bad parent. Since then my mom has acted like I am some kind of potential child beater or something. Watching me when I get mad and jumping in without being asked to. I would never hurt my children. I have never hurt my children... EVER.. On that day I just needed help and I asked for it. I began to feel like something was really wrong with me until I read that post. It helped me to see I wasn't alone. That we all have those moments. Sorry to take up so much space on a first visit, but it hit a nerve.
Katt, in one post you managed to explain EXACTLY why I wanted to link people to amalah's post on anger and kids....
seriosly if ever there was a good place to use" you hit the nail on the head" outside of a construction yard, this WAS it!
thanks so much for commenting, i figured that if it helped me, then other moms should see and read that post as well! i find lots of great blogs by hit or miss, and I assume its the same with other people, this was my litte way of trying to get even one more person to read this post and understand its not just ME! its all moms!
:o)
oh and as for mothers making you feel like a bad parent... ever had this one? you wake up to the lovely sounds of your baby talking to himself and playing with toys safely in his crib with a soaking diaper, look at the clock realise that for the first time in forever you got to sleep in, , get up to get your happy baby, go to clean him up and your mother ( mother in law in my case) says " oh your FINALLY awake. the baby has been up for hours!"
this is said, IMO ONLY to make you feel bad! what , i ask you , is wrong with sleeping while your baby is awake, he is safe in a crib and not crying, why should you get up? thats why babies can cry to call you when they need something...
recently my sis in law got told something along these lines, i was so mad on her behalf when she was saying how bad she feels that she slept whule the baby was awake.... people are mean!
Hey blue-you are the mom that I wish I had been-you realize how important it is to stop and enjoy the boys now, 'cause they grow up so quickly. Keep up the great work
M
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